<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[The Femme Autistic Life Coach, LLC]]></title><description><![CDATA[Life Coach for Autistic Adults]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 29 Jul 2026 09:11:36 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[To ARFID or not to ARFID]]></title><description><![CDATA[I'm going to preface this with: I'm not an eating disorder therapist. Here is a great one: Ash Isenhower - ash@hellometherapy.com Food is hard. Food is harder when you're the one in charge of it and your entire household is full of picky eaters, including yourself. Recently, I was talking with another parent friend and we got on the topic of ARFID which is something that's been on my radar with an autistic toddler. I was assured: not yet. But food is hard. And I'm always worried because it's...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/to-arfid-or-not-to-arfid</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a4f97b9273ec7a30ad1dbac</guid><pubDate>Thu, 09 Jul 2026 13:05:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_499a63954bd34534a9b4eb4406aba1f9~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Being a Tree]]></title><description><![CDATA[So there's an old video of a monk (see linked below) who's slow walking through a city ringing a bell. The city is bustling around him moving as a city does but there he remains, moving intentionally slow, step by step through the bustling city. This world moves fast. So fast, that sometimes, the best protest, the most intentional, and the most difficult is to just stop and be slow; to plant yourself like a tree. A tree has roots. It sinks them deep into the ground to hold itself steady. It...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/being-a-tree</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a482fa5fa28450cdeee928f</guid><pubDate>Sun, 05 Jul 2026 05:40:02 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/af6d7b_5c0ea2e9acc044b580a312321249a99b~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Laundry]]></title><description><![CDATA[OK so this post is mostly about laundry. Shudders. And maybe you are one of those blessed people who has laundry and dishes all figured out and maybe you really live to do those things. Bully for you. You may move along to the next thing on the internet. For the rest of us, these executive functioning tasks SUCK! Doubly if you are a parent. I don't know about you but I get to my pile of laundry after dealing with my kid at the end of the day and let out the biggest sigh and just close the...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/laundry</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a4279073c06bdad542669d8</guid><pubDate>Mon, 29 Jun 2026 14:12:27 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Butternut Squash Mac n Cheese with a sleep deprived toddler]]></title><description><![CDATA[Yes that is a helmut on the counter next to the cheesy butternut squash mac n cheese. ]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/butternut-squash-mac-n-cheese-with-a-sleep-deprived-toddler</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a1dee6f7ab417a19fc12a41</guid><pubDate>Mon, 01 Jun 2026 21:21:16 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/af6d7b_6d38b7b8753c4aadbbe70d1543da560b~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Autism and consumerism]]></title><description><![CDATA[I have a kid who just turned 3 years old. So there were presents because that's what our current American culture says to do for kids who have birthdays: buy them toys. My kid got a lot. And the thing with 3 year olds is, especially when they're neurospicy, you can't open them all in one day. It has to be spread out over the course of several days. Maybe even several weeks if your parents are also neurospicy and have no energy. And I noticed something: my little baby autistic kid was getting...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/autism-and-consumerism</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a13c2b3b8fa3083ec194470</guid><pubDate>Mon, 25 May 2026 04:02:49 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Chia Seed Banana Bread]]></title><description><![CDATA[So my kid eats like they ley me eat when they were in the womb: hot Costco chicken, dairy, carbs, fruit, and Orgain protein shakes. Except now, they barely eat any of that and wanted an ice cream cake for breakfast this morning. And look, I put my heart and soul into my baking for this kid. My kitchen is a mess. And I no longer have the energy to feed myself anything but a protein shake or maybe some black bean and cheese dip and chips. I might even get lucky enough to have some energy...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/chia-seed-banana-bread</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a0f7738b883334b04e11784</guid><pubDate>Thu, 21 May 2026 23:23:16 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Secret Power of Demand Avoidance.]]></title><description><![CDATA[You know what I think Demand Avoidance really is? Karma. We are in the age of information right now. Everyone is telling everyone else what to do with their lives: how to eat, how much to each, what not to eat, what to wear, what not to wear, who to date, who not to date, what apps to use, what schools to send your kids to, what groups to hang out with, what political party to align yourself with, and the list goes on and on and on and on and on. Enter: Demand Avoidance. Demand Avoidance...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/fight-your-demand-avoidance-and-read-this-post</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69fe027957c1b4d987670c48</guid><pubDate>Fri, 08 May 2026 15:49:10 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What even is "Normal"?]]></title><description><![CDATA[I'm sat here observing my kid knowing they're about to get evaluated for autism tomorrow. And so much of that evaluation centers around how much of their person is "abnormal". But what even is "normal" anyway? Do you ever say a word so many times, it stops sounding like a word? The further away I get from the 1950s heterosexual white picket fence two and a half kids American kink, the more "normal" doesn't really feel like an actual measurable thing. And of course it is in a clinical,...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/what-even-is-normal</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69e017bfcee1d9a6a673d524</guid><pubDate>Wed, 15 Apr 2026 23:42:54 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Autism as a DISability]]></title><description><![CDATA[We all know that Autism is labeled as a disability. And there is dispute among the community as to whether it is in fact a disability. There's confusion and distress over abelism both within the community and aimed at those without. And all the while, we fight to exist. Never have I truly experienced what this felt like until I became a parent and I had to fight for my kid. There's this thing that happens when you become a parent and you've had trauma you've been working through and you don't...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/autism-as-a-disability</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69dbbe25515c02011a1192a6</guid><pubDate>Sun, 12 Apr 2026 17:27:26 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Autism and Catism]]></title><description><![CDATA[You know I'm right. But let's get into it. 10 traits of Catism: Solitary creatures who prefer their own company and have a hard time befriending others of their own kind (with some exceptions). Often will prefer certain textures to others. Playful during certain hours of the day and sleeps the remainder of the day. Many have an oral fixation which can sometimes lead to obesity. Most are touch averse unless there is trust built. Strongly sensitive to certain sounds and smells. Hunting instinct...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/autism-and-catism</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69cae2556d22c86f75a56c18</guid><pubDate>Mon, 30 Mar 2026 21:04:08 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Stagnation]]></title><description><![CDATA[Here I am writing to you again from another sleepless night hoping that writing will let me sleep. For the record, I passed out shortly after finishing my last entry.  We all have different ways of coping with the realities of this world. I have been connecting with my spiritual side of late and having visions of spirit animals I hope to guide me in the way I need to go. Today, I spent money on petrified wood and my two year old felt it needed to go on my eye to help me meditate and lo and...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/stagnation</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69a9d3fe9ce02ea2106a8643</guid><pubDate>Thu, 05 Mar 2026 19:05:43 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Big Feelings]]></title><description><![CDATA[So I'm writing this at 10 pm in a bit of a depressed state. Maybe not the best headspace to start writing. Or maybe it's the perfect headspace to start writing.  I tell my toddler all the time that big feelings are OK and that it's good to let out those big emotions in whatever safe way we can. They're almost three so safe is kind of relative right now. But we do the best we can. And the thing is, I wasn't brought up learning how to do this. I was brought up learning how to squash and shame...]]></description><link>https://www.femmeautisticcoach.com/post/big-feelings</link><guid isPermaLink="false">69a9d3d29ce02ea2106a85c2</guid><pubDate>Thu, 05 Mar 2026 19:04:52 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>thefemmeautisticco</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>